Hey Readers,

What makes you see red? What are the things that really get up your nose and make you lose control? Well I had one of my 'red' moments over the weekend. I had been away for two weeks and I had left my car parked in my private parking space. Let me emphasise 'private', the parking spot is part of the land belonging to my property.

On Friday night I get a taxi in from London City Airport and when I get home I find a car blocking access onto the street for my car. I decide I will stay calm and hopefully the car will be moved. Following morning the car is still there, so I stick a notice on the offenders car windscreen stating "move the car or it will be towed". By 12 noon the car was still there and I really needed to get out and run some errands. I called my brother to see if I could move my car out through a gap between the offending car and another parked car. As my brother arrived in his car I walked over to my parked car and the offending vehicle owner was there. The first thing he said to me was "Did you put this note on my car?" I said yes and explained to him why. He retorted that I should be nice when I speak to him.

I immediately saw red. Firstly, this guy had blocked my parking space on several occassions before and plus he was committing the violation yet asks me to be nice. I continued to explain to him that my space was my property and that the space was marked in white lettering as 'PRIVATE'.

Eventually he moved his car and I drove off.

Upon reflection when I calmed down I realised that I should have stayed calm and made my point more objectively. Even though my incident did not become ugly, how often does it become so?

I then thought how often do we 'lose our rag' in business and professional circumstances where it costs money, hurts people and does long term damage. Upon further reflection I realised that I should be more of a 'peacemaker' and a 'builder of bridges' and relationships. Success comes from who you know, because potentially you can be providing a service or a product to anyone and everyone.

People can open doors or slam them shut, people can make or break your product, people can talk ill of you or praise you.

So when you see red next, what are you going to do? I know what I am going to try and do.

Shah Alam